find the clitoris

How to Find the Clitoris: A Guide with Props

Have you ever struggled to find the clitoris? If so, you’re not alone! To help you out, this week’s YouTube video shows exactly where it’s at so you know how to find the clitoris when you need to. For those of you who don’t like YouTube, I’m going to try to explain this, but it’s going to be a bit harder without my handy-dandy vulva prop. But I’ll try. So, you find the clitoris at Read more…

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Intimacy without Sex: 7 Ways to Make It Happen

How to gain intimacy without sex… We’d like to imagine that we’re going to have amazing sex all of our lives, but there’s a good chance that each of us will experience times when sex isn’t possible, even when we’re in a relationship. Maybe it’s those six weeks after childbirth or a few weeks after a vasectomy. Or maybe menopause hit you hard and vaginal dryness makes sex painful. Maybe you suffer from ED and Read more…

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Reader Question: How Do You Feel about Swinging?

What is your feeling on swinging? Recently I found out a couple I’ve known for years are into “The Lifestyle” and, quite frankly, I’m not sure how I feel about it. They’ve been married 15 years (I’m on 11 years and counting). It feels like cheating. Doesn’t it? I don’t know….. If we “swing” with them, would it ruin a years-long friendship? How do people manage it? Well, I wish I had a clear answer Read more…

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Faking Orgasm: Is It Ever Okay?

Is faking orgasm ever okay? I’d like to say no. No. No. No. Watch the video to find out why! As always, if you don’t do the whole YouTube thing, keep reading! Lots and Lots of People Fake Orgasms. So while the general population doesn’t seem to have an issue with faking orgasm, I sure do! And here’s why. 1. Faking an orgasm reinforces the wrong thing. When you fake an orgasm, you tell your Read more…

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10 Easy and Fun Ways to Initiate Sex Tonight!

One of the problems I hear again and again from couples is that in many relationships, it’s primarily left to one partner to initiate sex. And if that partner didn’t come on to the other, sex would basically never happen. Although this is not solely a cis-hetero problem, it is not uncommon in cis-hetero relationships. And although it manifests in different ways, it’s often the man who’s more likely to initiate sex and the woman Read more…

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Our Only Sex Is Oral Sex and I’d Like More!

Hey Molly, My girlfriend and I enjoy intimacy, but we get each other off pretty much exclusively with oral. It’s fun, but here’s the dilemma we have when we have intercourse. If she finishes from oral first, intercourse doesn’t really feel like anything to her. That makes it not as much fun for me either. If I finish from intercourse first, she gets kind of out-of-the-mood by the time we clean up. It puts too Read more…


9 Things You Should Know Before You Have Anal Sex the First Time

If you’re getting ready to have anal sex for the first time, you may feel a little nervous. Don’t worry! That’s normal. To ease your anxiety, here are a few things you should know that can make the experience easier and more pleasurable. Before we get started, a quick anatomy lesson. There’s the anus. The anus is held tightly closed by the sphincter muscles. Beyond the sphincter muscles in the rectum which is the very Read more…

Molly talking about edging

Edging Basics: What It Is, What It Does and Why You Should Try It

Here are your edging basics for beginners! Check out my latest YouTube video that discusses edging basics for folks who’s never played with orgasm control. Check it out, and be sure to subscribe while you’re there! So edging. What the hell is it anyway? Edging is a technique used to learn orgasm control. It can be practiced during sexual play with a partner or during masturbation. It involves taking yourself to the edge of orgasm, Read more…

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You Are a Sexual Being

Believe it or not, you are a sexual being. You brain and your body were designed to both want sex and to benefit from it. Your mental health and your relationships benefit from sex (both alone and with a partner), too! Keep reading to find out how!

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