Guys Tell How to Give a Better Blowjob was UPDATED 9/9/2021.

I remember writing an article on blow jobs for a millennial women’s website and it got me thinking. I know a thing or two about fellatio, hell I wrote a guide on how to give blow jobs,  but, alas, I am dick-less and have never been on the receiving end.

But I have a whole lot of Facebook friends who have been, so I decided to throw it out to the masses and find out what men say makes for a better blowjob.

And they had plenty to say.

Here are some of the highlights.

What Makes a Blowjob Bad?

Without a doubt, the number one consensus on bad blow jobs is teeth. And the way men talk about it, if you’re protecting his package from your teeth, you’re at least giving decent head.

Now, I don’t necessarily believe the “any pizza is good pizza” mentality when it comes to oral sex (I’ve had a handful of bad oral sex experiences myself), but man after man said the same thing.

It is teeth that make a blow job bad.

Almost every guy who commented on what makes a blowjob bad mentioned teeth so if some of you ladies out there assume he likes getting scrapped by your teeth, I hate to tell you, but he doesn’t.

On the off-chance he does, he’ll let you know.

Otherwise, just let it go and assume that for a better blowjob, he wants your lips wrapped around his dick and around your teeth.

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What Makes a Better Blowjob?

While there were lots of ideas on great blowjobs, men mentioned two things more often than any others. A better blowjob has more mouth and more eye contact.

More Mouth, Less Hand

In general, guys recommend “more mouth, less hand.” This made me ponder. I often recommend women using a helping hand while giving head, especially for those ladies who have difficulty taking more than a few inches in their mouths. It also helps keep you from gagging and gives you a rest when you need to regroup.

So I decided to apply the principle. The next time I gave my Hubby a blow job, I applied the more mouth, less hand philosophy. And had pleasing results. While my hands were still involved, holding his cock, rubbing his balls, stroking him, I made sure they played more of a backseat role than a starring one.

Instead of using my hand to apply pressure to the up and down strokes, I made more of an effort to massage the length of him with my cheeks and tongue. This created a snug tunnel with my mouth, instead of just the open vat it sometime became during oral sex.

And that’s the key. For a better blowjob, make your mouth as snug as you can. Suck your cheeks in against his cock. Make your mouth more like your vajayjay and he’ll appreciate the difference.

Make this the take away.

While it’s fine to use your hands during a blowjob, remember what you’re there to do, and it’s not to give him a hand job. Make your mouth the focal point, and use your hands as props. And don’t forget, just about everything you can do with your hand, you can do with your mouth and tongue, including swirls, twists, and playing with his balls.

More Eye Contact

When it comes to eye contact, a Facebook friend brought up a good point; remember that men, in general, are visually aroused. They don’t just want to feel your wet mouth on their cock, they want to see it, too.

That means don’t just stick their dick as far back in your throat as you can, it means to drop down on it and slowly pull back off. Let him see the length of it slide between your lips. Let him see your split glistening off his skin, watch your tongue glide across his head before it pushes between your lips.

Make a damn show of it.

And let him see you watching him watch. By making eye contact, you’re engaging with him on an intimate level, letting him see how much you adore his cock.

Because you do adore him and his cock, right? Of course you do. That’s why you’re trying to figure out to give a better blowjob.

So make your enthusiasm and eagerness blatant enough that there’s no doubt in his mind that there’s nothing you’d rather be doing.

A NOTE TO THE GENTLEMEN: Alright guys, I get you like it when we make eye contact. But sometimes it’s hard af to look at your face when we’re tonsil-deep on your cock. So, if she’s looking at you on the upswing or when she comes off for a moment, be happy with it. She’s concerned she looks like a gapping fish when she’s pressed up against you and craning her neck and trying to use her tongue and keep her mouth snug, and… and… and…

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Édouard-Henri Avril, Wikimedia Commons

What Makes a Blowjob the Best One?

If you want to know what makes a blowjob stand out above the rest, my Facebook fellas were willing to answer that, too. And the number one thing a woman can do is enjoy it. Want to suck his cock. Love it. Be passionate about it. Lose yourself in it. Get off on getting him off. Again, adore him and his cock.

And if he sees that you’re getting off on sucking his cock, it won’t matter how much you use your hands, or how long you keep your eyes locked on his, or even if your teeth scrape just a bit, he’ll still love it.

Because when it’s authentic and real and you love sucking his dick with abandon and it makes you go crazy with lust, you’ll go down as one of the best blowjobs he’s ever had.

I promise.

A Few More Better Blowjob Tips

And here’s a few last hints from the guys who took the time to help a writer out.

  • Use lots of spit (don’t swallow it down, let it drip from your mouth)
  • Be spontaneous
  • Twirl your tongue around the head of his cock
  • Play with his balls
  • Learn to keep pace
  • Be noisy
  • When it doubt, use more tongue

Have some great blowjob advice? Comment below!

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Ico Mah · at

Play with the balls! A flick is painful but a good squeeze intensifies the whole shebang. Really!

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