Howdy, folks! Today we’re talking about vaginal dryness, that pain in the who-ha that can arise from any number of things and put a painful barrier in the way of an otherwise enjoyable sex life.

Check out my video, which covers eight different reasons you could be experiencing vaginal dryness. And a few solutions to help you fix it.

If YouTube’s not for you, don’t worry. I’ve got the CliffNotes version below.

8 Things That Can Cause Vaginal Dryness

First things first, if you have vaginal dryness, regardless of your age or relationship status, you’re normal. Don’t feel like something is “wrong” with you. There’s not. Vaginal dryness happens and it happens to almost all women at some point in their lives.

You’ve started a new medications

Certain medications impact your ability to produce vaginal secretions, from blood pressure medications (namely beta blockers and calcium channel blockers) to antihistamines. So if vaginal dryness is something new for you and you’ve recently started a new medication, check out the side effects and see if that’s what’s causing your issue.

You’re on a low-dose birth control pill

Birth control medication influences the amount of estrogen and testosterone in your system, which can totally impact how wet you get. So if you’re taking the pill and nothing is happening between your legs, even when you’re turned on, it could be your method of contraception. BC pills can also cause a drop in libido. If you’re having these side effects, talk to you OB/GYN and see if changing to a different type of pill could help.

You have an auto-immune disorder or diabetes

Certain medical conditions, especially auto-immune disorders and diabetes, can make you less likely to get wet. This is due to reduced cellular rejuvenation, nerve issues, and increased inflammation and may become chronic without intervention.

You’re stressed out

When you’re stressed out, sometimes your body doesn’t respond to stimulation the way you want. Even if you want to fuck, you just won’t get wet. Find ways to reduce your stress (#YogaEveryDamnDay) and see if your body starts cooperating.

You’re mentally distracted

When you’re mind is not between the sheets, it doesn’t always matter that your body is. Whether it’s a big project at work or a family reunion you’re planning, your body knows when your brain’s not into it and may not respond appropriately.

You’re experiencing hormonal changes

Hormonal changes have a huge influence on your vaginal health and wetness. When hormone levels change, especially estrogen and testosterone, vaginal dryness is often a side effect. Peri-menopause, menopause, breast feeding, pregnancy, and even ovulation can cause your lady parts to not respond to stimulation.

You lack body confidence

Maybe it’s baby weight. Maybe you’re like me and gained a COVID-19. But if you’re worried about the dimples on your thighs instead of the man in your bed, it can make your body and brain glitch and lead to vaginal dryness. My best advice here, know that if your man is in bed with your, he loves you and loves your body and wants you to let go of that shit and enjoy yourself when your fucking. If lights are too much, consider lighting some candles. Everyone looks sexy in candlelight.

You’re not feeling your partner

Perhaps he pissed you off today. Or maybe he pisses you off every day. Maybe things are complicated and you’ve got some resentment and some hidden anger and you’re just not feeling him. But here you are in bed, trying to do your wifely duties, but you’re brain isn’t cooperating (and neither is your body). Resentment is a cock block. I don’t currently have any content on resentment, but my friend Dana does. She offers is a great video that can give you a good place to start.

A Few Things You Can Do to Help With Vaginal Dryness

This list is not comprehensive, by any means, but here are a few things you can do to help with your vaginal dryness.

Use a lube

There is no shame in using a lube when you’re dealing with vaginal dryness (or even when you’re not). You can get a retail brand at Walmart or Amazon, such as KY or Astroglide. These types of lubes are perfectly fine. If you’re looking for something a little more organic or natural, I have two to recommend. One is GoLove, a CBD lube from Dr. Sadie Allison and Tickle Kitty and the other, V-Swag, is hand made by a physician’s assistant and made to help heal you from the inside.

If you need a lube now, coconut oil works great. It’s all natural, anti-bacterial, and anti-fungal, which makes it great for your lady parts. Just be aware, it can stain your sheets!

Try seabuckthorn oil

Seabuckthorn oil is a plant-based oil that helps restore the body’s mucus membranes, which is the same type of skin we find in the vagina. Try an oral supplement and give it at least three months to start to take affect. It should help with not just vaginal dryness, but also vaginal elasticity. Those of you suffering from vaginal atrophy, try this and then email me and let me know how it worked!

Consider laser therapy

If your vaginal dryness is chronic and not responding to other treatments, there are laser therapies that may improve the condition of your vaginal skin. By creating micro-abrasions, these lasers don’t actually hurt you, but stimulate  your body’s natural healing response, rejuvenating the skin and it’s ability to respond to pleasure. Although I don’t know anyone personally who’s had these treatment, my research shows they are effective.

Talk to your OB/GYN

When all else fails, talk to your OB/GYN or your family physician about your vaginal dryness. Sexual health is part of your overall health and wellness and you won’t be the first person to come to them with the issue. Depending on the underlying cause of your vaginal dryness, your doctor may be able to offer a medical solution, such as bio-identical hormones or an estrogen cream.

Regardless of the reasons for your vaginal dryness, know you’re not alone. And that you’re not abnormal. And that you can find a solution!

Hope this helps!

~ Molly

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