This week, I address a reader’s question about squirting, and how much fluid she actually ejaculates.
I would like to ask you about female “squirting”. I’ve noted you refer to it from time to time, but I’ve been skeptical about this.
To clarify; I’ve only seen squirting on porn. The volume of liquid would fill a large glass, and hence I hold that this is urine.
I can’t imagine anything beyond a small, fine jet. Like how your salivary glands might squirt as you open wide to bite into something. I’ve noted a fine jet actually exit my mouth sometimes.
This is the kind of liquid volume I would expect from female ejaculation. I can accept it could be significantly heavier, but it’ll take some serious explanation to convince me those porn scenes are anything but pee; the flow does come from their urethra.
Could you clarify this matter for me?
This is a great question, so thanks for reaching out with it.
So, first, let me give you my personal experience, then we’ll get into what science says.
Molly’s personal experience squirting.
I’m a squirter. Have been squirting on the regular for probably close to eight or nine years. Now, I squirt with most orgasms, whether I want to or not. But the muscular contractions that make it happen have become an automatic part of my orgasmic response.
I always pee before sex (a habit leftover from a lifetime of chronic UTIs). And I’m pretty good at emptying out my bladder (again, those are the things you learn with chronic UTIs). And I always pee after sex, even if I’ve soaked the sheets.
I squirt a lot of fluid. On average, I’d say it’s between 1.5 to 2.5 ounces per orgasm, which is well within the normal range. If my Hubby edges me a little bit and doesn’t allow me to cum, then I’ll squirt much more fluid with much more force, sometimes making it splash off my chest or even my face.
And that’s with each orgasm. I probably cum at least 4-5 times per sex session, way more if we’re playing for a period of time. Sometimes, when I get in an orgasmic loop, where I’m cumming in waves for a minute or more, I’ll squirt over and over again. I can squirt so much that a towel or the comforter or whatever is completely saturated.
Here’s what my comforter looks like after a lengthy masturbation session.
This fluid is significantly different than my vaginal lubrication, the stuff that gets me “wet.” It’s thinner. Clearer. And not as sticky or stringy. If I’m well hydrated, it doesn’t have much of a smell, just slightly musky. If I’m dehydrated, it becomes much more so and does have an underlying urine-type smell. The liquid appears clear. If it dries on something white, a slight yellow can sometimes be noted, but not nearly as much as with urine.
My Hubby, who I’ve water boarded more times than I can count, says it definitely does not taste like piss.
Now onto the science of squirting.
Female ejaculation has been documented for centuries, with Aristotle, Chinese Taoists, and 11th-century Indian texts discussing the phenomenon, as well as the G-spot. Then, in the middle of the 17th-centry (1642 to be exact), Dutch physician Regnier de Graff identified an area of the front of the vaginal wall that he reported acted like the male prostate and de Graff also linked this spot to female ejaculation.
Studies have been done with an ultrasound, where they note the empty bladder at the beginning of sex, then fluid quickly entering the bladder right before squirting, then the bladder emptying back out when the fluid is expelled via the Skene glands.
When this fluid is examined, it does share some similar properties of urine, but it contains other things as well, most notably PSA, or prostate-specific antigen. The same chemicals made in the male prostate and found in semen.
Of the 10-54% of women who experience female ejaculation, the average amount of fluid released is about two ounces (and therefore understand, dear reader, that there are those women who will squirt a small amount, such as you mentioned from the mouth, but for each of those, there is a woman who expels much more than the “average” of two ounces). Those of us who experience squirting tend to like it, with 80% saying female ejaculation is pleasurable and enhances their sex life.
Here’s some more random research that I haven’t already linked to:
- The role of the Grafenberg Spot and female ejaculation in the female orgasmic response: an empirical analysis – PubMed (nih.gov)
- Differential diagnostics of female “sexual” fluids: a narrative review – PubMed (nih.gov)
- The “G spot” and “female ejaculation”: a current appraisal – PubMed (nih.gov)
- Female ejaculation orgasm vs. coital incontinence: a systematic review – PubMed (nih.gov)
Let me ask you this?
Does it matter if there’s a bit of urine in female ejaculate? Does it really? What if a bunch of women were to tell men that there’s urine in their spunk (you know there’s urine in your pre-cum, right)? Do you think they’d give a fuck? Do you think they’d be ashamed of what their body naturally does?
Fuck. That. Shit.
If you squirt when you orgasm, you squirt when you orgasm. It’s normal and there’s nothing wrong with you. And if you don’t squirt, it’s normal and there’s nothing wrong with you.
Stop trying to shame women who are enjoying their fucking sex lives (not saying that was what you were doing, dear reader who asked this question, just as a whole as it’s a habit that has lasted generations) and making them think they’re dirty or gross or whatever.
Interested in squirting?
If you’ve never squirted, or have, but have no idea why or how, check out these posts to help:
Hope this helps!
PS: Do you have a sex question you’ve always been too afraid to ask? Shoot me an email at Molly@yourbestsexualself.com and maybe it will become the reader’s question of the week!