Have you ever struggled to find the clitoris?

If so, you’re not alone! To help you out, this week’s YouTube video shows exactly where it’s at so you know how to find the clitoris when you need to.

For those of you who don’t like YouTube, I’m going to try to explain this, but it’s going to be a bit harder without my handy-dandy vulva prop.

But I’ll try.

So, you find the clitoris at the top of the vulva, where the vaginal lips meet. It’s often covered in a hood (it’s actually a foreskin) and not visible unless the person who owns the vulva is aroused.

When they are aroused, the clitoris becomes erect, much like a penis (you can learn all about clitoris erections here), and the foreskin pulls back, exposing the clitoral glans, or what we typically refer to as the clit.

But understanding where the clitoris is and finding it when you’re with your lover aren’t always the same thing.

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How to Find the Clitoris

If you want to find the clitoris, lay between the legs of a person with a vulva with their belly toward the ceiling. You’ll notice a few things, including her vaginal lips, which are called labia.

To find the clitoris, start by putting your finger between her lips. Don’t push into her vagina. Just lay your finger on her vulva, between her lips. Now slide your finger up the point where her labia meet.

Move your finger around in a little circle here and you should be able to feel her clitoris. You don’t have to worry about moving her hood. You can massage her clitoris just fine through the skin.

If You’re Still Struggling

If you’re still struggling to find the clitoris, place the ball of your hand on the fleshy area above her vulva and gently pull the skin toward her chest. This will make the clitoris more visible and easier to find.

It’s also a great way to get the clitoris in your mouth when you’re going down on her, as it exposes it just enough.

So there you go. Hope this was helpful!

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