Fisting: Your Ultimate Guide

Have you thought about being fisted, but didn’t know how to begin? Well, it’s about time I help you get from thinking about it to being filled with it.

Fisting is done with patience, care and perseverance.

Because it’s going to hurt like a mother fucker before it feels like heaven. As a matter of fact, my first fisting experience is the closest I’ve ever been to safewording. And I was close enough that I was struggling not to safeword. That is until the orgasm hit me.

If you’re interested in fisting, keep reading as I discuss what I’ve learned through experience and what’s worked for me as I present Your Ultimate Guide to Fisting.

The first thing to do if you want to try fisting is making sure you’re somewhere you aren’t going to be bothered, as once that hand’s inside you, it’s not so easy to get out. You don’t want a random in-law stopping in when you’ve got a whole hand up your pussy. It may make for an awkward conversation.

Second, make sure you’re with someone you trust because this can become a dangerous experience if things are pushed too quickly or someone doesn’t stop when you ask them too.

Consent is a big deal, so make sure you have a safeword in place. Yes, it’s necessary, although hopefully, you won’t need to use it. If it’s your first time fisting, it may be a good time to use words like red, yellow, and green, that way you can have your partner slow down without having them stop. Either way, make sure you’ve talked about this before you’re on your back with your knees pulled up to your ears and a dude’s hand buried up to the wrist in your pussy.

And just a suggestion. Give him a manicure before you get started. File his nails so the edges are short and smooth. You’ll be thankful later.

You need to play and then you need to play some more.

Play. And then play some more before you attempt to start with the fist. You want to be very aroused and very wet. Like sloppy, soak-the-sheets wet. And make sure you’ve got lube handy because a lot of juices will get soaked into the skin, which is good, as it helps it stretch and give and go back in place when it’s all over.

Begin with some gentle pussy play and work up. One finger. Two fingers. Three fingers. Once you bridge up from three fingers to four, your partner should be folding their fingers in, making their pinking and pointer fingers touch.

Once you’re comfortable at this level, have him fold his thumb in, encircling it with his other fingers.

Now we come to the hard part. The knuckles are the widest part of the hand to get through the vaginal opening. The only advice I can really give is to go slow, eighth-of-an-inch by eighth-of-an-inch slow. And use lube. Lots of it. Slow and steady.

I find it much easier if I’m playing with my clit at this point. The pain level can get high, but mix it with a bit of pleasure and I cum like crazy. And the muscle spasms from the orgasms help to draw his hand in. If you have a Wand, use it.

I promise you won’t regret it.

Riding the Wave

Once your partner gets past the thumb knuckle, it’s smooth sailing. The whole of the hand starts to slide in, and your partner’s fingers should naturally fold over their thumb, making the “fist.”

When their hand is fully inserted in your pussy, take a moment and breathe. I personally like to feel it, reach down and feel how fully stretched I am around his wrist. It’s the embodiment of his control over me and my trust in him and it turns me on like nothing else.

Finding a Rhythm

Now that his fist is in there, it’s time for some movement. A lot of movement is not necessary, as it’s rather tight inside, and there are a few different strategies that can be employed here.

One way is just the simple opening and closing of the fingers, which can feel freaking amazing. Another option is for your partner to move their whole hand forward and back, just like they would with their fingers if they were finger fucking you. Not too much, and not too rough, as it is very easy to bruise the cervix.

Now you get to play around. See what you like, what feels good. So go ahead, have some fun!

Pulling out

And now comes the tricky part. The exit. I’m sure most of you know that just about everything is easier to get into than out of, and a fist in your vagina is no different.

I tend to find the extraction often times just as painful, if not more so, than the entrance. Just remember to reverse what you did. Slowly (very slowly, remember how long it took you to get the damn hand in there, don’t try and get it out in 10 seconds) begin pulling out, and be extra careful around the knuckles, as this is the thickest part of the hand.

I find it helpful to pay some attention to my clit at this point, although at this stage I tend to just put pressure on it, as I’m most likely overly sensitive.

Regardless of your sensitivity, move slow and take your time. A few sloppy kisses at specific times may also make the transition easier.

So there you go. If you’ve followed along, you’ve been fisted. Be careful, it can become very addicting. And remember to do your Kegels on the daily; they help before, during, and after.

If anyone has any more advice, add it below in the comments. Please! These tips are based solely on my own experience and who knows if they work for anyone else.

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