If you do this stop. Seriously it’s not nice and using sex as a weapon can screw with your relationship.
In my humble opinion, I don’t believe that you should ever use sex as a weapon or for leverage (unless you are in a D/s relationship and it’s wrapped up into your life, but that’s a different post for a different day).
Withholding sex because your mad at your man because he didn’t take out the trash isn’t only bed for your relationship, it’s a bitch move.
I really don’t understand it. I like sex. A lot. I don’t want to go without just cause I’m mad or angry. And I get that if you are mad or angry, you don’t want to have sex and that’s okay. Don’t have sex. But if you are just being spiteful, it’s time to stop.
You and your partner will be happier. Your relationship will be better. And, at least in my experience, there becomes an increase in respect.
With Feeling or Without, I Don’t Care
Sex is emotional and these are still emotions. Some of the best sex I’ve had is when I’m mad or angry. The sex becomes different, primitive. Cathartic. You can put it all out there without saying a word.
And although I like emotional sex, sometimes it’s nice to just break from the emotions and fuck. Sex isn’t always a “relationship building” session; you don’t have to make “love.” Just get off. I can do that when I’m mad. Hell, I like to do it when I’m angry, it gives me a focus for my frustration.
Once, I was chatting with a friend about being mad at my Hubby. He tells me that I “give it up” too easily. He suggested that I don’t have sex with my Hubby when I’m mad or when I want something.
My mouth dropped open. Really? Why? So he gets so horny that he’ll go buy me a new iPhone? Wtf. Another friend criticized me for “liking sex too much” that I wasn’t willing to hold out when I’m pissed. But, you know what? My Husband and I have the best sex life of anyone I know. Not only do we have sex more often, with more variety, but I’d bet money it’s better sex.
So girls, if you do this, stop. And guys, I know you sometimes do it, too. You should understand the importance of regular sex, whether meaningful or not, and the role it plays in not only your relationship, but how well you get along. Shame on you!
Next time your pissed at your lover because they said something stupid about your brother, stay mad if you want. It’s okay. Just make sure that you’re not letting it interfere with your sex life.