If you’ve never experienced female ejaculation, either as the giver or receiver, it’s about time to try.
But before we start, I want to give you a little bit of information to clear up many of the misconceptions many people have about squirting. First and foremost, it is not urine. Again it is NOT urine. Female ejaculate’s a clear fluid expelled from (or near) the urethra, very similar to men’s ejaculate, but without the sperm.
Although there’s not unanimous agreement, the basic consciences is that the fluid comes from the G-Spot, the female equivalent to a man’s prostate. Sexperts think all women have a G-Spot, so it should be technically possible for all women to have a gushing orgasm, although some may not.
What we do know for sure is that the more a woman’s in touch with her body, together with how comfortable she is with herself sexuality, the easier it will be for her to ejaculate.
So, moving on, let’s talk about how you make this happen. To keep everyone on the same page, I’m taking the approach of coaching a lover through making their partner squirt. Obviously, you don’t have to do it that way, but for clarity’s sake, that seems easiest.
And, while can make yourself squirt, it’s, by far, easier to have someone do this to you, at least until you learn how it feels and how to control it.
So, without further ado…
Here’s your guide to female ejaculation
If you want to give your girl a squirting orgasm, there’s a few things to do and some items to have on hand before we start. First, make sure you’ve talked to her about it. You need her cooperation and, at times, assistance, so this isn’t something you can do without her being into it.
She’s got to be relaxed and not at all hesitant, because that only makes it more difficult.
Lastly, a few items to have on hand:
- A Hitachi Wand, which is totally not necessary, but can definitely help
- A quite and comfortable area
Before things get started have her pee, this eliminates her concern that she’s going to pee on you and can make the process a little easier.
Start with Foreplay. A lot of It.
If you want your girl to have a squirting orgasm, she needs to relax enough to let go and she needs to know that you’re not going to freak out when she squirts all over you. To help her get there, begin with foreplay. It doesn’t matter what kind of foreplay, as long as it involves hands, mouths, and bodies. You want to turn her on, but take your time doing it. Move slow, take your time, and make sure she’s excited and wet before you even try to find her G-Spot.
Stimulate Her G-Spot.
Once she’s aroused and excited, have her lay back on the bed, with her legs spread and knees pointing towards the ceiling. Lube up, even if she’s wet. Right now, there’s no such things as too much lube. Trust me.
Take two fingers, I prefer the middle and ring finger on my dominant hand, but whatever feels most natural to you, and insert them into her pussy, palm facing the ceiling. Bend your fingers up towards her stomach. Somewhere, about one to two inches inside her vagina (think of trying to touch the back of her clit), you should feel a spongy area.
This, my friends, is the G-Spot.
Using a “come here” type motion with your fingers (pulling up and in) massage this spot. Don’t stop. In many women, it will swell and become hard. If this happen, it’s a good sign.
Increase your pressure.. You may massage. You may tap. Feel around and do what seems to bring the best response. You can even place the heel of your other hand above her pubic bone (right above the hair-line) and press down slightly. This brings the G-spot closer to your hand and should increase her pleasure even more.
Don’t be afraid. Your touch doesn’t need to be too gentle here. I hate to say it shouldn’t be, but really, it shouldn’t be. I’d almost like to say make it rough… Many women need a lot of stimulation to squirt and the vagina isn’t designed to be gentle. It’s made for childbirth, and I promise, you can’t break it with just your fingers.
Time for Squirting
As her G-Spot hardens, and her pleasure increases, she should begin to feel a pressure, sort of like she has to pee. Reassure her that this is normal and not to worry about it, she’s not going to pee. Encourage her to let go, and give in to the feeling.
If she continues to hold back, tell her how excited you are and how much you want her to cum. For those of you on the kinkier side of things, words like, “Good girl” can make a difference. If she hasn’t squirted by this point, have her bear down on her pelvic floor when she feels an orgasm approaching, which should move the process along.
And just because she orgasms doesn’t mean that she’s not going to squirt. A lot of times, she may need the orgasms to build on one another before she ejaculates. This means don’t stop your stimulation on her G-Spot just because she’s withering underneath your hands.
If you think she’s getting close to cumming, be prepared. These orgasms are often intense and may be unlike any that she’s experienced. She may need a little time to recover.
Don’t Give Up.
Don’t become discouraged if it doesn’t happen the first time, as some women will have trouble. It’s new feelings and it’s a new sensation. And as long as your both getting off and having a good time doing it, there’s only fun in trying.
Remember, all things take practice.
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