I was reading a random blog post about what men want, discussing the dichotomy of prim and proper during the day and wild and raunchy at night. I actually emailed the link to my Hubby to get his thoughts on it, which were pretty much “Yep, that’s what we want” (he’s not much of a talker).
And it got me thinking about the wife and the mistress, the housewife and the whore, the “good” and the “bad.” How men want it all. But it’s not that they want it all, more that to be happy, they need it all.
Hear me out.
A wife gives a man stability, a home, a family, something to care for and love, something to provide for, take care of and call his own.
A mistress, however, gives him excitement, a change from the everyday, a thrill will no judgment or expectation past the here and now, a moment in time devoted to nothing but pleasure. She’s something that is solely just for him.
So how do we, as women and wives, how do we meet these needs, which seem to exist on opposite spectrums?
By becoming the mistress.
Have an Affair.
Think about what it’s like to have an affair. It’s secretive. Intense. Passionate.
You don’t met your lover with hairy legs in sweat pants you’ve had on for two days. No, you primp, you prep, you make yourself look your best. You wear something that makes you feel sexy, wanton.
Do this for your man. Have little rendezvous. Have secret meetings and stolen moments. Rent a hotel room for an hour in the middle of the day. Sneak to meet after work for a make-out session in a parking lot. Do it in the spare bedroom on your lunch break. Whatever it takes.
Touch each other like you only have this time, right now. Like you don’t know when the next time you will be together is. Like all you’ve thought about all day is dropping to your knees and taking him in your mouth. Live in this moment and fucking enjoy it.
Leave the Wife at Home
When you have these moments, leave home at home. Don’t talk about the bills, the chores, the children. That’s not what this is about. This is about wanting and sex and pleasure. You’ve got every day to bitch about this stuff. Don’t do it now.
Here, you are not his wife, you are his mistress. Focus on him, pay attention to him. Fawn on him, make him feel special. Touch him. Let your hands roam his body, let you hand graze him as he walk by.
Break From the Norm
For this to work, it has to be different. It has to be fun. Be filled with adrenaline and thrill and not be boring.
So let your guard down and get dirty. If he always makes the first move, hit on him. If you always have missionary sex, then climb on top.
No man wants a boring mistress. You need to let go. Be wild.
Talk dirty. Give him head like it’s your favorite thing to do. Fuck him like it’s the last time you’ll be able to cum. Live out your fantasy. And his.
Don’t Forget to Have Fun
Because that’s what it’s about. It’s about taking care of business and having fun and enjoying each other. It’s about getting back to basics and having a good ole time.